Parents are fighting a war over the COVID vaccine for children
Shuli, a 15-year-old New Yorker, was in a dilemma when a COVID-19 vaccine was approved for his age group.
“My mom is a very pro-vaccine; the high school student, who asked that his last name be withheld for privacy, told The Post, “My dad is a hard-core anti-extremist.” He kept telling me, don’t take the shot.
So when his mother, Elisheva, who has full custody, gave him the freedom to choose whether or not to get a jab, Shuli picked the shot before school started. “My school is really cool about it,” Schole said. “You cannot play sports or engage in extracurricular activities [if unvaccinated]But everyone I know has been vaccinated. They have vaccination clinics in the school and health care workers who will come to talk to you if you are afraid of being vaccinated.”
But since departing from his father’s advice, Shuli has caught a cold. “He’s still mad at me,” the Upper East Sider said. “It’s a permanent rupture – I don’t think our relationship can be repaired then.”
Despite the family’s repercussions, Shuli said vaccination is the right choice. “I get to socialize and interact with people, go to the movies and restaurants – plus keep others safe and no one gets the virus because of me. I will say it’s all worth it.”
For divorced parents, the issue of vaccinating their children has thrown a wrench into friendly relationships. When FDA approved emergency use authorization Pfizer’s Vaccine for Children 12 to 15 In May, a new wave of legal cases emerged. Ex-couples with joint custody have found themselves bitterly divided over their children receiving an injection, sending them to court in hopes of winning sole medical decision-making rights.
“The biggest problem right now is that divorced couples have this problem after divorce,” said Carly Krasner Liserson, a marriage and family attorney in New York City. “For families with joint legal custody, this means making joint decisions about key decisions for their children, including medical decisions.”
Adolescent vaccination “is a polarizing topic. This is not something that can be bargained for, like which camp a child will attend,” the attorney continued, adding that she believes more legal problems will arise among parents when younger children become eligible for the vaccine.
The tensions are already leading parents to wonder if they have cases against their ex-girlfriends on the other side of the controversy. An Upper East Side mother was furious when her ex-husband vaccinated their 12-year-old son, without her consent. “My ex wanted to be vaccinated. He didn’t care what I was thinking,” said the 40-year-old, who asked to remain anonymous to preserve her children’s privacy. “I would like him to be arrested – this puts the children in danger.”
She has contracted the virus herself since she was fully vaccinated, and she is concerned about the vaccine’s long-term effects, including on her son’s fertility. (Krasner Laserson, who is not associated with the case, said this likely would not be considered child endangerment. “The problem is a breach of the parties’ custody agreement by making a major medical decision for a child without a mutual agreement with them,” she said.
Krasner Leizerson is currently representing a client in court who wants his 14-year-old daughter to be vaccinated, while his ex-wife is vehemently opposed to it.
The parents, who settled their divorce out of court about four years ago, lived amicably, sharing birthdays and holidays together. “It was a typical divorced family co-parenting,” Krasner Laserson said. “And now they find themselves in court over this case.”
The lawyer does not believe that the ex-wife has any case. The pediatrician and parent coordinator recommended that the child be vaccinated. The father is essentially asking the court to give the father the right to vaccinate the child and to give the father alone the decision regarding the children’s future medical decisions due to the mother’s poor judgment and refusal to follow the advice of the child doctor in this regard.”
The lawyer said the girl’s vaccination status had other repercussions.
While NYC public schools don’t impose the shot on nearly a million students, and About 65 percent of the city’s population has been fully vaccinatedPrivate school vax rules can make or break a child’s experience at school.
“There are serious social implications for the child — she is the only girl in her class who has not been vaccinated,” Krasner Laisersson said of her client’s child, adding that the child’s private school prohibits unvaccinated students from participating in sports teams, clubs and nightly field trips. . The unvaccinated are wearing a “different kind” of masks and have to eat lunch outside – for now. “I became an outcast,” the lawyer said, noting that the child wanted the injection. “She wants to be on a team and in activities.”
Amanda Ory, founder of Manhattan Private School Counselors, stresses that being the queer when it comes to vaccination is social sabotage. “You don’t want to be an unadulterated child in a private school,” she said. “There is bar mitzvah, parties, and weekend getaways in the Hamptons. Parents don’t want unvaccinated children.”
In fact, Elisheva said that in addition to the health benefits, one of the reasons why Shuli decided to get vaccinated was that it would be safe to participate in activities with friends. After more than a year of emotional trauma caused by the pandemic, she said, “putting them back in a situation where they are cut off – from friends and social activities – is just crazy.”