dear miss: When I had a friend visiting my place for the first time, I met him outside in the parking lot to get in. A neighbor I talk to a lot was outside, and he said, “Hi, David, who’s your friend?”
Well, none of her business, basically.
If I had wanted to go into the introductions, I would have offered it.
Is it rude not to introduce someone in all these circumstances? And if so, how do you avoid the inflectionalities with a lot of talk and more questions?
Added to this is the fact that any information shared is likely to be idle gossip among more neighbours. How do you maintain a friendly distance and indicate one’s preference for privacy?
nice reader: Since there’s no polite way to turn down a requested introduction, just make it quick: “Jason, Evelyn. Evelyn, Jason. I’d like to talk later, but my apologies—now we’ve got someone waiting for us.”
Miss Manners gasped at saying that, and at the same time she should not have kept Jason in motion for the door without turning her back on Evelyn.
dear miss: I have two good friends that I recently decided not to dine with in restaurants. why? They insist on making multiple changes to anything they ask for.
They even order dishes that are not on the menu, and often send the food back. Neither of them is allergic, only selectivity and limited tastes.
I read that asking for more than one change on a plate is just rude, and I strongly agree. Why do you eat outside? Make it your way home. If you’re dining out, step out over the edge and try it the way the chef makes it.
A friend thinks he’s likable because the staff knows him. I think they shudder when he comes and curse him in the kitchen.
What do you have to say about picky people in restaurants?
nice reader: Even asking for one change would be too much if there was no clear difference between what the restaurant claims to serve – hot food, for example – and what was served. And your friend doesn’t want to know what the employees really think.
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